5 emotional childhood wounds that persist when we are adults

Is quite common, unfortunately, that our emotional health is damaged since childhood. Often we are not aware of what is blocking us, which gives us vertigo or which causes fear to us.
In most of these cases, the origin is a lessons learned when we were kids, these injuries that have caused us our first experiences with the world and that we have not been able to heal.

Emotional wounds are painful childhood experiences that make up our adult personality, who we are and how to face adversity.

We must make us aware of them and, therefore, avoid makeup them, therefore the longer hope to heal them, deeper they will do. The fear of reliving the suffering that we caused makes that we put hundreds of masks that will only hinder our movement for life. That is precisely what we must avoid.
Betrayal, humiliation, mistrust, neglect and injustice... They are some of the wounds that Lisa Bourbeau points out in his book five wounds that prevent you to be yourself. Then let's see how we can identify them:

1. Fear of abandonment

The helplessness is the worst enemy who lived the abandonment in childhood. Imagine how painful that must be for a child to feel the fear of being single, isolated and unprotected to a world that does not know.


As a result, when the helpless child an adult, it will try to prevent back to suffer neglect. Therefore, who has suffered from it, will tend to leave early both their partners and their projects. This responds, only and exclusively, to the fear that causes you relive that suffering.

Is very common for these people to talk or think this way: "I leave until you leave me me", "nobody supports me, I am not prepared to handle this," "If you will, never again...".

These people will have that work their fear to loneliness, their fear of being abandoned and its rejection of the physical contact (hugs, kisses, sexual contacts...). This injury is not easy to cure, but a good start to heal it is to face the fear to stay single until they flow a hopeful and positive self-talk.

2. the fear of rejection

This injury prevents us to accept our feelings, our thoughts and our experiences.
His appearance in children is caused by the rejection of the parents, family or the same. The pain that is generated by this injury prevents a proper construction of self-esteem and the self-esteem of the person who suffers from it.

Generates thoughts of rejection, be unwanted and disqualification to self.
That rejected child feels not worthy of affection or understanding and making you to isolate themselves for fear to return to experience this suffering.

It is likely that the adult who was a rejected child a elusive person. For this reason, the internal fears that generate panic should work.

If this is your case, take care of your place, risk and to make decisions for yourself. Increasingly it bother you less that people walk away and not take you as something personal to remember you at some point. You are the only person you need to live.

3. Humiliation

This wound is generated when we feel that others disapprove of us and criticize us. We can create these problems in our children telling them that they are awkward, bad or a heavy, as well as aerating their problems to others (something which is, sadly, very common). This, without a doubt, destroys self-esteem children and, therefore, hinders the possibility of cultivating a healthy self-esteem.

The type of personality that is frequently generated is a dependent personality. In addition, we have learned to be "tyrants" and selfish as a defense mechanism, and even to humiliate each other as shield.
Having suffered such experiences requires that Let us work our independence, our freedom, understanding our needs and fears, as well as our priorities.

4. Betrayal or fear to trust

This wound is opened when people close to the child do not keep its promises, making you feel betrayed and deceived. As a result, they generate a mistrust that can be transformed in jealousy and other negative feelings, to not feel worthy promised and what others have.
These problems in childhood builds personalities controllers and perfectionists. They are people who to have it all attached and reattached, without leaving anything to chance.


If you have experienced these problems in childhood, it is likely that you feel the need to exercise some control over others. This is justified, often by the presence of a strong character; However, let's say that it is due to a defense mechanism, a shield against disappointment.
These people tend to confirm their mistakes by his way of acting, doing so their prejudices are met. They have to work the patience, tolerance and know how to live, as well as learn how to be alone and to delegate responsibilities.

5. Injustice

The feeling of injustice comes into play in homes where the primary caregivers are cold and authoritarian. An excessive demand generates feelings of inefficiency and uselessness, both in childhood and adulthood.

Albert Einstein summarized this idea very well with its well-known phrase "we are all geniuses. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, will live his life believing it to be stupid".
As a result, who experience this pain, can become a rigid person that does not support half-measures in any order of your life. They tend to be people who try to be very important and achieve a great power.

It is likely that you have created a fanaticism by the order, the perfectionism or, even, by the chaos. The issue is that they are people who become radicalized their ideas and, therefore, find it difficult to make decisions safely.

To deal with these problems must work the suspicion and mental rigidity in order to generate greater flexibility and allow confidence in others.
Now that we know the five wounds of the soul that can affect our well-being, our health and our ability to develop as a people, we can begin to heal them.

The first step, like everything in life, is to accept that wounds are in us, give us permission to annoy us and, above all, give us time to overcome it.

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