You've lived on occasion some excessive emotional dependency ? Someone has been very dependent on you and just allowed you to have personal space? It's something very common which is worth considering. By our emotional health and our balance.
The risks of emotional dependence
Love a person requires reciprocidad, concern and commitment. We know that it is inevitable to be dependent on that person for who we love, is something understandable and logical. When someone is part of our life in such intimate and special, it is usual that you worry all that does, you express and what you think.
But it is necessary to maintain a balance for the sake of our emotional health and our integrity. There is who gives everything for the other person to the point of becoming empty, transformed into a kind of small satellite that twists and turns around a planet without direction. And without being recognized. You must be careful. Thus we give you 5 tracks of why they should take into account the principles of emotional dependence.
1 put the wishes of the other person to your own needs
Be careful with this. Is very common for us to establish almost without realizing account, the Classic toxic relationshipsin which s, is raw material desires and whims of the other person above their own. And the problem is that we do freely and with love, because it is what we feel, and somehow, we seek only the happiness of that being that we love.
But there comes a day in which appears the frustration, because we realize that us is not taken into account. We is not recognized in any sense, and what has been happening so far is that they have exploited our emotions by manipulating us as puppets.
2. the happiness depends only on the person we love
Our partner, is, so to speak, our day and night. It is the center of the universe in which we were almost in the background. Our colleague becomes more important than our family, our work or our aspirations. We leave aside our self-esteem to focus everything on that. It is this suitable? at all. Can we understand it? Of course, because there is where is the risk of emotional dependence. The forgetting of ourselves to focus on the other person. A day that, we realize that we have exceeded, we feel a little empty and damaged self-esteem will come.
3 it costs us to say no
Say is not to deny. And denial is something that we do not conceive when we are very much in love. How are we going to deny something to the person that you want to? How to opt for something different to what our partner? We fear antagonizing him, bother it or trouble it, and why there are many people who leave aside need assertiveness, i.e., defend and express what we feel, think, or need.
4. If I am not willed by him, I am nothing
It may seem too exaggerated, but there are many people who come to this end. If they do not receive this daily proof of love, if they are not wanted, or even if they are single, see same / as well as the most unfortunate people in the world. They are that they do not conceive the fact of living without parejpersonality profiles a, for example. They need to be loved to look good themselves, to be evaluated. If they feel reaffirmed with another person at his side, a very extreme unhappiness they suffer.
5. the risk of us drivers
Emotional dependence is an obsession. And the obsession requires control, feed the mistrust and jealousy. Sure that you have lived it once. Couples becoming controllers because they live very dependent on us, of what we do, not what we do, if demonstrate them that we love, that if we give them reasons for mistrust... is a free live very unhealthy, that surrounds us in periods of high stress and emotional distress. We must be careful with this type of toxic relationships where the emotional dependence, can directly attempt against our own health, freedom and self-esteem.
We should love with intensity, no doubt. But always with balance and maturity, remembering that you are also important.
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