3 keys to educate your teen

The teen must learn that life is full of rules and requirements. It is important to maintain a balance between rights and duties.

Sometimes it is not easy. Educate a teenager requires patience and emotional intelligence, know to instill values and appropriate limits where they can grow with maturity and responsibility. We explain how.

Tips to educate our teens

1. offer new rights but also duties

Normally, girls are always something earlier, and are they who, upon the 11 or 12 years, begin to make more demands. The kids takes more to mature. Usually about 13 when, suddenly, and without that we know how, we become more stubborn, proud and reactions that we don't understand.
They are growing, they are entering the adult world taking even child's feet. And it is not easy. Think of them as in a small personal and hormonal chaos in which will have to be defined.
They need opportunities for learning, they demand more rights and freedoms not seen objectively whether their actions have risks or not.
The best thing we can do is maintain a balance with the theme "énérgetique". You can let them out the weekend, provided they met in college. Important also that come home at the set time, and in case of late arrival, they lose privileges.
The important thing is that every teenager learns that life is full of rules and requirements, also for adults, that is why you need to understand it from a very early. Things "do not fall from the sky" because Yes. Adults working to get money with which to feed ourselves, dress... live.
Demand to teens because that take responsibility for their actions and their studies. Remember also that if you set standards, which are fixed. Not to forgive the things a day Yes and another not, because otherwise will lose us respect.

2 educate in positive: before "reinforcement" that the sanction

There are fathers and mothers who make the mistake of continuously punish their adolescent children. Scolding, arguments, negative reinforcement... You must maintain a balance. Let us take an example. Suspend a test, come home with bad grades and we increpamos them the bums who are and who will never come to anything in this life.
Something we cannot do it. We will awaken in them negative feelings , helplessness and low self-esteem. Ask them what has happened and give them confidence. Tell them that you trust them and you know that they will get pass that stuff because they have sufficient capacity.
When they make a mistake, teach them how to can do it better, but don't you bury them, do not criticize them. Offers strategies and confidence rather than consistent sanctions. It is the best.

3. a good communication and foster confidence

Search always a time in the day to be with your teen and ask how has fared the day. Do not judge them by what they do or do not do. As parents we must focus, and this is achieved through a constant dialogue and confidence.
Avoid that your teen is the typical boy or girl always stuck in your room, with your computer, your music... That you only get to eat or stay with their friends. Prevents you to isolate by fostering activities in common at home since they are very small.
At lunchtime, turn off the television and talk to them. Ask them for their tastes, by his friends, by that guy who likes, by that girl... encourage them to share things with you with peace of mind.
The ideal is that they know that they have you support, never an enemy that only sanctions or criticism and that does not help.
Listen to them, guide them, I know his father, his mother and his friend. Set limits when you need and offers rights when them, with his maturity and responsibility, to show it.

To conclude, we know that educate teens is not easy, that none of us have perfect manual. However, we assure you that with optimism, love and desire, we can be mature and responsible people able to be autonomous in their life.
Happy people who know how to get things there to work hard, to have good friends and a couple should know respect and understand. Emotional intelligence is always a good perspective on which we can rely.
Conclude by saying something important: must be both father and mother, agrees to the education of the children. Same values and same purposes.

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