"Who swallows much ultimately drowns". It can be that you've heard this expression ever, an old saying that, like most of these old phrases that remind us sometimes our elderly relatives, contain universal truths from which we should learn.
Few things you shut up in your day to day? How many feelings and thoughts you keep to yourself trying this not to harm or offend who have opposite? You must be careful because, in the end, are hurting who really is yourself.
We explain why.
1. who is silent gives, but... Everything has a limit
The silence is wise, that no doubt us, and is always very appropriate that before a foolish words, before a comment out of place or a little proper expression, we elect always to close the mouth and thus act more intelligently than who speaks without thinking.However, must know keep a balance between silence and defend our needs:
- Mute our feelings or our thoughts leads who have opposite not never know that it is hurting us, or which is exceeding their limits. No one is I guess, so, if we don't put out loud that which seems to us wrong or that offends us, other people won't know it.
- There are wise silences and words of wisdom. Know when silence and speak is possibly the most appropriate skill that we can learn to develop. It is not at all always quiet or tell everything what we have in mind, without letting ourselves nothing in the pipeline. The extremes are never good. Keep the balance, but always remember that hiding the emotions is also do harm to ourselves. Thus, you allow others to violate your personal space, that crossing the boundary and speak for you when you're quiet, they choose for you when you keep silent... In the end, you will be little more than a puppet non wire-guided.
2. the silent words become psychosomatic diseases
Not surprised to know that the mind and body are intimately related and connected. So much so, that specialists warn that nearly 40% of the population suffers or has suffered some psychosomatic illness in his life.
Nervousness, for example, alters our digestions, produces the classic headache or diarrhea. Many cold sores are caused by processes of high stress, nerves and fever. So, do not overlook the fact that silence every day what we feel and what we think in our body generates high anxiety.
Think of all those words that you don't want to tell your parents or friends to not hurt them. They do things for you, thinking that you help, when in reality it is not so, and make you feel wrong. why not dare to tell the truth? Consider also our partners, who do not want to offend, but there are moments that act in a way that hurts you. And, however, you opt for silence.
All of this will be translated into afternoon or early in psychosomatic, illnesses in migraines, high voltage, in chronic fatigue...
3. put your words out loud: the key to the emotional relief
You must not be afraid to hear your voice, and even less that others do too. It is as necessary as breathing, as eat, sleep... Emotional communication is necessary in our day to day. for establishing more healthy relationships with others, and, of course, with ourselves.
We give you some basic keys to how to get it
- Thinks that everything has a limit. If we don't put out loud everything we think and feel, we are not acting with dignity, we will lose our self-esteem and control over our lives. Firstly, awareness that tell what you think and need is a right.
- Say what one thinks is not doing damage to anyone. It is defend yourself and, in turn, inform others of a reality that should be familiar.
- Not you obsessions in wondering how they will react to others, don't be afraid. Now if you are much worried what would happen, you can prepare yourself to possible reactions. An example: are tired of your parents to come to house all the weekends and don't have intimacy with your partner. You have decided to tell them to stop coming, at least as often. Of how you think that going to react? If you think they will get angry, get ready to reason them that there is no need for anger. If you think you will feel wounded, also prepared the mode in which you are going to argue that they should not feel so.
- Think that the words, say out loud what we feel and think is, in fact, the best way to emotional freedom that exists. Practice it with wisdom, take care yourself.
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